There are websites aimed towards women looking to get their breasts augmented, one is a sort of MySpace with boobs. Stop laughing, I'm serious. A woman can create a profile and make 'friends', all male, who are enabled to make donations to The Cause. Emails, voicemail, telephone numbers, webcams, you name it...all available for a price. Further degradation is flaunted by the dollar amounts plastered on their personal pages of how much they've raised so far. The sad bit is that these sites cater to the rather ditzy type of female, who doesn't think to look at the small print where it more than likely states that they get NONE of the money if you don't meet the target goal (usually $5,000-$8,000) Incidentally, the site operaters do anything they can to keep the women from meeting that goal if they get close. Your page is not working for some reason, suddenly, or your password comes up invalid for a month. How do I know this? Well, people do complain to the BBB (Better Business Bureau), even ditzes. The point I'm making in a roundabout way however is that women are encouraged to use the web to fulfill a man's fantasies. Some fall into it somewhat unwillingly, some flaunt their 'empowerment' at being able to lead men on, and still more find it to be their true calling.
The above is a somewhate extreme example of what women are capable of doing to men online; bilking them of their hardearned money for a boob job they most likely will never attain. In a sense, working as prostitutes for faceless pimps that dole out money very rarely and extremely unwillingly. The men don't ask questions, It's just a glorified 900-number to them.
Going on to other venues, lets take online gaming into account, specifically MMORPGs (Massively Multiuser Online Role Playing Games). This is where all personality types, whether real or contrived flourish. One can find a ranging from Princess to Prostitute quite easily, and most often when one least expects it...
The Princess
This individual will give the impression that they are capable, then as the male player/s get to know them they find out that this female is forever getting themselves into situations where they need rescuing. They will get themselves to an area where they have tasks to complete, then wail that it's "So hard" to do alone, until some obliging man comes along offering to quest with her. There the effort ends. They expect the poor fellow to keep track of her completed tasks as will as his own, never let her die, and pass all the best loot to her. More likely than not she will have several men doing various tasks for her: one to quest with, one to carry her through dungeons, and several to craft items for her (no charge, of course). Why? Why, she is the damsel in distress, the one a man looks to for a smile or a grateful word, or more. She'll dole out the flattery in careful measure, true. And it means nothing to her. The man is just a pair of arms to use since she is just too lazy to get up from her jeweled pillow.
The Wringer
You know the type. Similar to The Princess, this one will be incapable of doing things for themselves. But instead of going the 'Damsel in Distress' route they predominantly function on pity. Virtually wringing their hands and bemoaning how they "can't find" this, or "can't do" that, they really need help and they know it. Less men fall for this type on the getgo than Princess, since this one really is an imcompetant bordering on idiocy. Unable to comprehend clues, instructions, or tactics, this woman will flail around in abject misery until some gallant male lifts her onto his horse and proceeds to do everything for her. You've seen the type often without knowing it until you have the misfortune of grouping with them. She is the one that is exalted most if not every faction, has excellent gear and an epic mount...and no clue how to play her class. She will frequently put her gallant on follow and go afk, she will stand there doing nothing during boss fights. Sound familiar? When the first male begins to tire of her, she'll post coy pictures of herself somewhere and lament how fat she is. Incompetance is swiftly forgiven and more men jump on her bandwagon, assuring her of her desireablity and denying the multitude of other self-depreciating things she will spout. It's very few men that allow this barnacle to get under their skin, since she is very draining and hard to maintain, but it doesn't matter since there are always more men to attach herself to.
The Farmwife
I find this type a little disturbing, since as the name denotes, they are someone's wife, girlfriend, fiancée. At first, they set off an aura of comfort. A pleasant person to game with, moderately competant but no expert. Sometimes they step afk (Away from Keyboard) to settle down their children or say hello to their significant other. When this comfort zone is established with a male gamer (usually at least 7 years younger than she is), she will start to 'open up' to the male during play hours and encourage him to do the same. Eventually a Myspace/Friendster bond is formed, where small favors are asked and friendly comments exchanged while offline. Instant Messaging might or might not take place here. The danger doesn't really become apparant, even when she starts complaining to the male about her life in general, eventually circling around to how dull she finds her sig. other, how he doesn't understand her, etc. etc. Secretly she'll thrive on the attention the male gives her, gloating if she manages to wheedle any complaints from him about HIS significant other, if he has one. Real email addresses are exchanged in this stage, as the male 'realizes' that this poor woman might need comforting, and since *cough* HE is the "only one" she can talk to...you get the picture. At some point here she will hit him with the inevitable "Ah, I wish I'd met you before him.." Hook, line, and sinker. She'll put him in difficult situations where he might feel he has to hide their relationship from any romantic relationship he might have been cultivating prior, and although she will pretend to be encouraging in reality she wants to come first. Greedier and greedier, she'll constantly pepper him with ingame whispers, and it's all over if she gets his phone number. This kind of women is disgusting to me, as she has no intention of changing her lifestyle for the male in question, but has done everything in her power to change his. In truth, she gives nothing in return for everything.
The Hag
Another disturbing one. Seeking out males at least 15 years younger than themselves, they model themselves after the Farmwife, with a twist. They start from the beginning hiding their age, vaguely alluding to middle years and establishing a comfort zone early on. Bored & married or even widowed, with several children nearly as old as the males they latch themselves to...I can only feel pity for them. Trying to meet the rigors of a gameworld they often have no comprehension of, they usually need help in everything. Males see no harm in helping out this motherly soul, who is just looking to fill thier lonely lives with some sort of entertainment, right? Ugh. These Baba Yagas are just looking to latch on to a young man who will revive their ancient feelings of desireablity and attractiveness. You will never see their picture online, and as for their age? Ha. I can guarantee they will always pick the 100 year mark on websites; they will only reveal that tidbit to the man once they are sure they're hooked good and tight. THAT particular conversation always ends up to be a psuedo-timid outpouring of how 'scared' they were of revealing the truth. Yes, these women have years of experience behind them, and maybe this may benefit the relationship in some ways...but when you look at it, all you really have in common is a world of pixels. The reality is lost in saggy flesh and all-too-soon arguments where the male is accused of...guess what? Being immature.
The Dragon (aka Red Sonja)
Full of fire and vim, The Dragon will have done most everything on her own, and take pride in it. She most likely will have quested more, made more gold, and ground out faction reputation largely on her own. She doesn't need anyone to tell her what to do and goes where she wishes. She asks for her own groups, works her own crafts, and stands up for herself if she gets in trouble. She may come off as having a huge ego, but really is just full of confidence in herself. Women like this tend to make men a little uncomfortable, but as she is a smart player and can be trusted to make good decisions they seek her out regardless. Also, she is no pansy and is prone to bouts of temper. This woman fights as hard as a man, if not harder, and shares a companionship with most of the people she comes across borne of nothing more than character progression. She may not open up to any man immediately, or share any of her horde...but a man that can accept her jarring independance may be in for the ride of his life. For she will keep him to her standards, and accept nothing short of excellence.
The Tart (aka The Prostitute)
Oozingly sweet and/or Seductive, the Tart will pander to a man's base inclinations, sex and the fulfillment of certain sexual desires. Lots of kisses, hugs, squeezings from this girl. She'll be very attractive and have her own site full of luscious snaps of her rolling around on the floor or getting drunk with her friends. Most often rather young and inclined to wear too-tight blouses in real life, her character will often emulate this by wearing the skimpiest outfit she can find and dancing in the middle of a common zone. What does she want? Help. And more help. "Take me here", "buy me that!", rewarded by whispered caresses and promises of more. Similar to the Wringer she will abscond with massive amounts of ingame goodies, but men never tire of her. They don't even care if she admits to being taken, she leads them to believe they are far better men. Always promising, delivering, and promising more. A fishook with neverending bait...but she's still a worm.
The Siren
Silent, even shy at first, doing her own thing, she asks for nothing. It's the males that come to her. She doesn't know why, but a few words out of her mouth keep them coming back for more. Ranging from average to good player, she will never be Great; but it doesn't matter to the men that keep her court. Like the Dragon, she does things on her own. Unlike the Dragon, she will prefer to do them socially. Laughing, talking, and simply playing is her forte, and no man can resist her, whether they prefer sparkling smiles of thanks or her sometimes crass wit. She is easy to talk to, only offering advice on occasion, never judgement. She may also be a private person to some degree, open in some ways but closed in others...which usually intrigues men more, though she might not know it. Most other women hate her, as they are aware that they are a minority in these online games and would rather the men pay attention to them on the mere basis that they are female. (or of course, one of the types listed here) Once again, it matters not if she is average looking or moderately attractive (rarely beautiful). She is sought out, and her login is filled with a smattering of welcoming tells and invites to 'go and do something'. She has fun, her online life is full of chuckles and friendly insults, and finds herself well-looked after although she doesn't need it. If she lets a man closer than usual, she has to be careful, because he will fall for her something fierce, whether she is looking for that sort of thing or not.
But I have experienced and gotten to know a good deal of personalities over the years. It may seem that there are more negative female types than positive listed here...but in reality it suffices to say that there is someone out there for everyone. Maybe you wish to be The Princess' Knight, maybe you dream of an older, experienced women that needs your companionship. Maybe you are the Player that thrives on his sweet Tart. I'm not here to judge.
I will say I find online infidelity to be one of the lowest things one person can do to another. If you find yourself snagged on the branch of one who wishes your companionship above that of their professed loved one...run. Tear free, whatever the cost, run far, run hard.
And don't look back.
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